Putus Cinta bikin Tubuh Langsing?

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Berpisah dari seseorang yang dicintai, bukanlah perkara mudah seperti membalikan telapak tangan. Sebab, seseorang yang tadinya selalu ada mendadak sama sekali hilang, bisa menyebabkan perubahan, baik secara emosi juga kondisi fisik. Salah satunya adalah jadi hilang nafsu makan.

Seperti dikutip Prevention, para ahli menyebut kondisi tersebut dengan istilah Break Up Diet, alias diet putus cinta. Ternyata, kondisi yang demikian dialami oleh banyak orang. Bagi mereka, jangankan ingin mencicipi suatu makan, rasa lapar saja tidak ada.

Marina Pearson dan Debra Smouse, Konsultan Pernikahan, mengatakan bahwa tubuh dan pikiran itu saling terhubung. Jadi, tidak heran bila saat hati sedih maka tubuh pun akan terpengaruh. Kala hati sedang lara, tanpa kita sadari tubuh pun merasakan hal serupa.

Pearson menjelaskan mengenai efek kimiawi yang terjadi kala kita sedang merasa stres dan gundah gulana. Ternyata, saat merasakan hal yang demikian, adrenalin pada tubuh terpacu untuk melepaskan diri dan mengalir ke seluruh tubuh, sehingga meningkatkan kadar kortisol.

Nah, kadar kortisol yang berlebihan dalam tubuh akan meningkatkan gula darah, mengurangi kalsium pada tulang, memicu tekanan darah, massa otot jadi berkurang, lemak kian bertumbuh, bahkan kemampuan akal untuk berpikir turut menyusut.

“Kondisi seperti itu, dalam jangka pendek, bisa memengaruhi sistem imun. Sebab, sistem imun manusia berada di dalam usus, sehingga jangan heran jika akhirnya selera serta nafsu makan menurun,” papar Pearson.

Lebih lanjut, dia menjelaskan, saat kita memaksa diri untuk makan, bisa jadi kita akan kembali merasakan kepedihan. "Ini karena kita belum siap untuk bangkit dari kesedihan dan kekecewaaan, sehingga kita tak ingin merasakan sakit. Akhirnya, memilih untuk tidak makan," urainya.

Bagi wanita yang mendambakan tubuh langsing, mungkin kondisi ini merupakan kabar gembira di balik sesuatu yang tragis. Namun, perlu diketahui, berat badan yang turun akibat hati bersedih itu sama sekali tidak sehat.

“Salah satu klien saya mendadak kurus setelah bercerai. Dia disarankan oleh dokternya untuk menambah berat badannya, tapi ia ngotot ingin kurus supaya suaminya kembali lagi, karena wanita lain suaminya memiliki tubuh langsing," katanya.

"Berat badan yang turun karena patah hati merupakan efek domino, tapi membiarkan diri kelaparan bukanlah contoh mencintai diri yang positif. Tak peduli cara itu dapat membuat Anda langsing,” jelas Smouse.

[Source : Prevention]

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Aroma yang Membuat Lawan Jenis Lebih Tertarik

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Seksolog Zoya Amirin mengatakan terdapat tiga aroma utama yang dapat membuat lawan jenis lebih tertarik. "Tiga aroma utama itu adalah wangi kayu, vanila, dan mawar," kata Zoya di FX Senayan, Jakarta, pada Selasa, 19 Februari 2013.

Menurut Zoya, sebenarnya terdapat banyak wewangian yang mampu memikat lawan jenis. Namun, tiga aroma itu yang berada di urutan teratas dalam menarik perhatian lawan jenis. "Tapi ketiga wewangian itu yang paling signifikan membuat lawan jenis mendekat," kata Zoya.

Tiga wewangian tersebut, kata Zoya, terpipih berdasarkan sebuah penelitian. Ketiganya wewangian itu bisa menjadi dasar dan bisa ditambahkan wewangian lain sehingga mampu mengeluarkan aroma unik dalam parfum seseorang.

Ketiga wewangian ini juga lebih melekat di memori otak manusia. Sehingga ketika seseorang bertemu lagi dengan salah satunya, mereka akan langsung mengingat kejadian yang terkait dengan wangi tersebut.

"Otak akan bereaksi dengan ketiga wangi itu sehingga akan ingat dengan segera orang yang memakai parfum dengan wangi itu," katanya.

[Source : detik.com]

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Is Anxiety Blocking Your Path to Love?

Dating is a bit intimidating for most people. But if you are an anxious person, dating is more than intimidating—it can be downright painful and terrifying. Most people with anxiety have difficulty dealing with uncertainty. And dating, for all its glory, is rife with uncertainty. After all, you are getting to know one another, and it’s uncertain if you will have a connection or not.

In order to deal with the anxiety, your instinct might be to avoid dating altogether. You put off making definite plans. You find yourself shutting down, finding faults with your potential date, or losing interest in the idea of going out with him or her. Your anxiety may cause you to criticize yourself and doubt in your ability to face your fears. Fear tends to erase our memory—we forget all of the times we’ve succeeded in challenging our anxiety. Think back to instances when you’ve faced your anxiety and it’s turned out well. Remind yourself that you have what it takes.

The next way to help deal with the uncertainty of those first few dates is to reframe your anxiety. Often anxiety takes center stage, and it feels overwhelming, so it’s hard to pay attention to the rest of your feelings. If you could focus on other emotions besides the anxiety, what would you find? Perhaps you’d notice a small degree of excitement? Maybe a sense of hopefulness about the possibility of dating this person? Remember, anxiety is persistent and loud. Don’t let it fool you into thinking it’s the only real emotion you have about dating!

Anxiety-prone people often face the idea of too much pressure on dates. There is (often self-imposed) pressure to be witty, to be talkative (but not too talkative), to ask questions, to make fun plans, to look good, to show your best self. All of that worry can weigh you down and prevent you from really being yourself on dates. I will tell you a secret, though: Your date wants to impress you, too. Conversation is a two-way street, and it's a 50/50 deal. Imagine taking all of the pressure you feel and giving half of it to your date. Rather than focus on having such high expectations of yourself, pay attention to getting to know him or her, learning how he or she respond to your interests and questions, and seeing if he or she is someone you are interested in getting to know more.

Another area that concerns anxious daters is worry about the outcome of the date, or what could go wrong. First, consider the worst-case possibilities that could happen on your date. What comes to mind? Perhaps you worry they will reject you or judge you harshly.  Perhaps they will not have a good time or will not be attracted to you. Ask yourself this: If my worse-case scenario came true, would it be the end of the world? How long would it bother me? Have I been able to deal with this in the past? If for some reason the worst-case scenario came true, would you really want to date that person? Usually, when a date doesn’t click, on some level it isn’t working for both people.

Now, here's the fun part! Imagine the best-case scenario. What are some of the benefits that could come from the date? Maybe you have an amazing time, learning things about yourself you never knew, or find you share similar passions with your date. Perhaps you build confidence in yourself. Maybe, just maybe, you discover love with this person that will last a lifetime.

Realistically, there's no way to know when love is waiting just around the corner. But one of the benefits of pushing yourself to date, despite your anxiety, is that practice makes it better. The more you expose yourself to the anxiety of dating, the less powerful the anxiety will become. And the more chances you give yourself to find lasting love.

[Source : http://www.shape.com]

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